DEDICATION
To my friend Pearl Treasure for being an inspiration to me and Richard for cheering me on.Companionship is one of the keys that open the doors of success. As a matter of fact, life would have been so boring for you if you were the only person created on earth. You won’t get a helper. You won’t have another person to share your words with. You would live alone and loneliness is a very boring thing. Imagine in the ancient days, Adam alone would have to live among other animals that were paired. While they enjoy company, man was lonely.God realized it wasn’t good for man to be alone, so He created another person. The purpose of the second person coming is not only for procreation, but also for companionship and mutuality. You need another person and even persons in order to get to your destination and so you must never think you can do it alone. Now get it. There are several kinds of people in the world, some with good dreams, and others with bad ones. The other group has ugly dreams. There are different kinds of people you will meet; some helpful and others hurtful. The kind of people you associate yourself with will determine whether your life and dreams will be safe or not. Sometime you lose your life, other times you lose your dreams depending on who goes with you and why, or who you go with and to where.God being so good, the Second World War has ended. You don’t want to begin the third one in your life! Sure. I began but I realize it won’t be a bloodless battle, so I put my guns down so that I can live in peace and achieve my dreams. You want to be successful and spring others into success, isn’t it? Just avoid these types of friends so you can enjoy a peaceful passionate journey to success!Friendship determines to a great extend how far you will go levels. So I share with you 6 types of friends you should never keep. You can’t cope with the animalistic attitudes of some of them if you have a dream of going far. However, when you drop them, your journey will be smooth. Get them now!
1. Snail-like friends: If you have got one, you would realize that he/she had helped you to slow down your speed in the past and you don’t want that to happen in the next level you are going. You will get to your destination with them, but it will take you a very long time to make it happen. If you get the heel, take to them. Sometimes you have to pull a novice up to become an expert like you. In doing so, you have to wait on your mentee to catch up slowly since he is a new learner.That’s fine and that company calls for no harm. But I am aware there are some individuals who want to deliberately slow your progress for diabolic reasons. Some do so in order to gain advantage over you. They find various reasons why you should not further your education this year. They submit to you several reasons why you should postpone you marriage date to next year and so on. Keep them at a distance so you can move to the next level in peace.
2. Crocodile-like friends: Have you got into trouble one of these days? Maybe you have to land yourself in one deliberately to see those who will run away. When you become successful, they are attracted to you, but when you fail, they repel you. Time spent with them is enough, get away! They live in water and on land. When the water is hot, you’ll see them on land. When the land becomes uncomfortable, they go back into the water. So cunning!The interesting thing about good friends is that, they are always there for you and mostly present at your hard times. When the journey becomes tough, you need them to tell you never to give up. When you are tired, their shoulders become your resting place. Mind you, they are not only there to help you. They are there to get helped too when necessary. If they need your help, offer it. But watch out and be careful for those who run away after you give them the help they needed. Mostly, they are those who will come back to you when they need help again. When you are in trouble, crocodile friends disappear only to appear when things get alright.
3. Housefly-like friends: They are numerous than any other kind of friends, but less useful. How I wish they never come your way. Well, they’ll definitely come; but you have to know how you play your cards. They go for impurities and land them in your mind. Surprisingly, they’ll not stay to see the effects of the contamination they brought into your life. So relationships were destroyed just because a housefly kind of friends distributed falsehood against one partner. Some business deals got cancelled because these same kinds of friends shared wrong information against beneficiaries to make them lose their contracts.Enough! If you get to know them, part away from them. Anyone who is gossiping about another friend to you will definitely gossip about you to another friend. Be careful of what you say, else soon and very soon, they will spread it from house to house. One major thing you can notice about them is that they are eager to destroy someone’s good image in your mind with impurities. Those who pay attention to them never get along again with the people whose images they have polluted. As much as you don’t want any of them as your friend, don’t be like any of them.
4. Chameleon-like friends: Chameleon friends are those friends who watch what you do and become hungry to do same thing in same way. They only copy you blindly. When you are going to the east, they also want to go to the east. Everything you do, they want to do it the same way because they are convinced that is the best way. You become a standard for them to project and live by. They can easily steal your ideas without feeling guilty. They have no ear for diversity, so how can they have mind for innovation? Little did they know that they can speed up their journeys to the next level when the walk in their own shoes that fit them well.The consequences of imitation are enormous, but frankly, it is the simplest way of hiding your true identity. As much as you don’t want chameleon friends beside you, never be a chameleon friend to another person. Learn from other people’s skills, but never be eager to act the way they do and always be a copy of who they are. Chose to be the best version of your own self and never dream of becoming the second version of another person. Develop your own unique styles and you’ll stand out.
5. Vulture-like friends: They have never been successful in building their own nests, so if you have spent your life listening to the promises of mansions they have promised you, you may never start your life. When conditions are perfect, they’ll go glee, but when things fall apart, it’s then that you see them having plans. They are good at planning and setting goals. They calculate and get very serious about moving to levels when they get into horrible and terrible circumstances. You know the vultures very well. They build no next, but they are also called a bird. When it rains, the rain whips them very well and proverbially, it is said that this is the moment they think of making the nest.However after the rain is over and the sky is bright, they forget the idea of building a nest. Vulture friends live plan-less lives in fair weather and become plan-full when they weather goes bad. There are some people who only know the essence of investment when they are broke. Once their money is finished, they know the importance of saving. They may swear to get addicted to saving money when things get right. As soon as money comes again, they will forget their oath until further notice. And the notice comes when they get broke again.
6. Maggot-like friends: After the burial of a religious clergy year ago, we were returning from the cemetery when a young lady who was weeping asked a rhetorical question; “so very soon maggots will feed on pastor’s body.” While walking away, I kept the words in mind and started asking myself questions; why didn’t the maggots feed on his body when he was alive? Where will the maggots come from to feed his body? Will they come from the soil or they will grow from his flesh? It is a weird question to think about and the answers won’t change anything.But come to think of it. It is true. The maggots wouldn’t feed on him when he was alive. I know there are some friends who will not want to destroy your legacies when you are alive. Even if you are alive, at least not in your presence. The moment you are gone, they go into the tissues of your legacies and bring them down in no time. They are difficult to find out, but in as much as you don’t want them, don’t be one.There is a saying that two heads are better than one. And surely one bad head is better than two. You better be alone than to walk with people who won’t make your value increase. I believe you have to stay away people who discredit your ambitions. Mark Twain said “small people always do that.” If you want to gain speed and go far, stay away from friends who want to go at the snail’s pace. If you want to kill procrastination and achieve your ambitions at the appointed time, leave your vulture-like friends alone and let them mind their delay business.It is my desire and it will be my pleasure to see your legacies live long. I trust that your inspirations linger on in your presence and in your absence; in your lifetime and long after you are good. I want you not to be forgotten in hurry. Never associate yourself with people who live maggot-like lifestyles. They destroy legacies! Heed to this advice. Although they are too difficult to find out, take to your heel when one become obvious. Don’t entertain gossips, especially those that are bent on destroying other people images. As long as you don’t want your image destroyed, don’t put a sharp knife on someone else’s own. Spray out all those house-fly like friends who want to spread people’s matters into your ears if those matters won’t add any value to your life. Remember they carried those matters from somewhere and perhaps spread it from place to place before reaching you. Be the odd one out!Your success is grossly dependent on your companions. Your network should be filled with people who see greatness in you, people who want to invest into your dreams, people who give you the needed support and people who are ready to offer you the needed assistance. Include people who advice you when you go wrong, people who will not give you the chance to stay idle, people who will teach you necessary skills and people who will check on you to be sure you are on track every time. This is a possible way of making progressive steps to the next level of your fulfillment.
Prince Slycon Agbesi
(an inspirational writer and blogger )
SLYCONTALKS
No comments:
Post a Comment